I am new to Sage installation. Installing an update on a new server and upgrading to the latest version. Having issues with SQL L

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This is my first time installing updates to Sage. I have been on a pretty old version for awhile now waiting on my server replacement (old server was too old to be able to install the new version) I now have the new server and am ready to install the new version and when I got started it is asking to find the computer that has the data on it. I selected the server from the network list and it accepted that, however it then was trying to use the SQL from my estimating program Xactimate. I am not sure if that would be an issue or not but I was afraid to move forward from there and end up screwing up both programs!! Anyone on there have any suggestions? Unfortunately it is difficult to install while the office is open and when it is not, the customer support is closed for the day. So I thought I would try this. Any help would be appreciated.